Each and everyone one of us is a work in progress in all aspects of life. No matter how we may appear to anyone else who sees, or thinks we may have it all, no one has everything figured out and we are all working on improving every day. It has been said many different times in many different languages and ways, but the general principle is the same no matter how it is said.
We all remember the first time we have any done or completed a task of any type. It is rewarding to feel that sense of accomplishment no matter how often it happens even in our daily lives. Building up knowledge and learning to adapt to doing any task leads to the development of competence. I can completely understand when we get started doing anything new that we begin to start to compare ourselves against others doing the same thing and is completely normal, but we have to remember that we are our own toughest critic and that can lead to self sabotage and destroy any chances of a future success. However, changing the perspective of how we look at our own work can make all the difference in the world. Try to remember not to compare yourself to others, only compare yourself to where and who you were yesterday. This is the first step in building company, find your efficient way of learning and doing things to have the maximum effect and produce the best final outcome you are able to do that day and then, do better the next.
With repeated competency will come confidence. It is only a matter of time and repeated competency that you will begin to build your confidence in what you are doing and that can be extremely rewarding. when it comes to building up your confidence, reviewing and looking at how you have changed and improved everyday is one of the small things you can doo that will change your perspective of how you have grown and advanced building up your confidence in what ever task you are doing. This can become infectious, leading you to take on more and more challenging things allowing you to grow and advance your skillset to become more and more diverse in you skills than where you were just a year prior. One key that may help a great deal is working with someone more advanced that you are who can show you some tip, trick and things they have learned just like an apprentice. Having a connection with someone like that and having that connection will help you grow, build you confidence.
Often times, we find ourselves working with or learning from someone showing us the ropes so to speak that is a great way to get some guidance and help in learning any new skill, having a mentor work with you help you through things and problem solving along way can be a confidence boaster as well as building a connection that sometimes lasts years or even a lifetime. Building a connection with like minded people like a mentor can and often times does help boast self confidence, building on your competency along with some comradery fueling the innate human need to belong which builds on personal character development.
Part of life is learning who you are as a person and learning on a deeper level what your morals, ethics and where you will and will not compromise as a person and building your own character. Understanding that compromising is perfectly acceptable as long as it does not require you to change who you are as a person or puts you in a compromising position challenging who you are as a person. With that being said, being challenged as a person in some capacity allows you to build, refine and hone your skills, competency and helps further develop dimensions of who you are as a person allowing you to grow multidimensionally as a person, boasting your confidence helping your self esteem. Just like the adage that Rome was not built in a day, discovering who you are as a person, what you are passionate about, as well as what motivates you to be a better person all contributes to who and what type of character you are and will become in the future.
In a seemingly fast-paced society, it appears all too often that people claim to not have the time to even be polite, offer a helping hand, or engage in some simple kind gestures for others. many times, people regulate charitable contributions to only holiday time at the end of the calendar year, but that does not have to be the case. Contributing also known as paying it forward can come in a multitude of forms and does not always have to be a financial contribution. Contributing can be something as simple as being that person that offers to hold the door for someone who has their hands full it can be a random act of kindness, For example, being friendly to someone even making them laugh letting them know that they are seen and not invisible in the everyday race can have a profound effect. We all lead busy lives and are all too often preoccupied with the challenges of our days and lives that we seem to forget how lucky we are to have the lives we have and that even though there is someone who has more than we do or is more successful than we are, we are in some cases the one that has more, or more successful than others.
Life is not fair, and it seems that just as soon as you get comfortable and things are going well that is when Murphy’s law strikes. With that being said, it is the fact of enduring a defeat that allows us to enjoy the victories when we do get them in life. This is where the vital skill of coping comes into play. Learning to deal with adversity, and defeat because adversity and defeat not only teach us were our limitations and weakness are but also shows us real life examples of what we can do to improve
One of the most challenging aspects of building and developing emotional resiliency is being self aware and knowing what you can and can not control, knowing that you have some people you are close to that you can share emotions, discuss what is going on in your life and can get some reassurance from people around you and being there for them as well. However, it is also important to be able to have and know your limits and not being afraid to say now and not feel guilty about having boundaries with other people. another part of emotionally well being is being able to look at your life, and see and enjoy the small everyday little thing s in life. Far to often, we all get caught up in social media, or seeing what neighbors or other have that we do not, and that can leave you thinking that you are inferior to someone else but that is never the case. Being able to take a deep breath, sit back and relax, clear you mind, watch a sun rise or sun set and just enjoy the small things in life. Being able to put things into perspective like that can help you center your emotions.
A phrase that I was told when I was a teenager still rings true today. that phrase seems to have been lost over the past thirty or so years and it is “those who believe they can do something are right, so are those who believe they can’t”. Inner drive is something that can push and self motivate you to achieve things that many people may think to be impossible, and for them it may be. However, find something you want to do, and imagine that there is a smaller version of you as that is shoveling coal into a fire to power a steam engine. the more you shovel the hotter it gets. Use that heat, energy and transform that little you into being the best version of who you will be not can be. Changing the perspective on something like that can be the little thing that can allow you to achieve great things that many may see and think is impossible.
Perspective is key, we all know that Rome was not built in a day, and building on the previous statement of believing in yourself, self-motivation, and changing the perspective form can do, to will do will alter your focus to being more future-focused. Look at where you are as a checkpoint or waypoint to change up or course correct to keep yourself headed in the direction you want based on your goals. the toughest step in every journey is always going to be the first step. No one is born being able to run a marathon without training. However, pushing yourself a little further everyday working to be a better you in some way, shape, or form can make a world of a difference and often times is the defining factor in-between those do, and those who do not. changing the perspective of “failing” to learning a way that did not get the end result that you were going for just shows you that there are other ways to complete a challenge.
Physical health is something that everyone is always working on for the better or worse. Some people think they need a gym membership to be active and that is far from the truth. If that is what you need to stay motivated, then by all means get a gym membership, but you may fall short of your intended end goal. When setting a goal for physical health, be sure to use the S.M.A.R.T goal standard. For example, the goal of “get in better shape” falls short and more than likely will not succeed. As an example, setting a goal of walking 30 minutes every day for one week is a good base point. it is Specific it is Measurable, it is Achievable, Relevant and it is time-bound not only daily but for a weekly goal. you can always adjust the time duration of the goal and advance it to make it more challenging.
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21st Century Renaissance Man 